1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar (use white vinegar for light wood) 2 tablespoons jojoba oil (you could substitute olive oil, but jojoba doesn’t turn rancid) 3–5 drops of lavender essential oil Combine the ingredients in a jar and shake well to blend. Dip the corner of a rag in the polish and rub it into the wood. Test a small section of the wood before polishing the whole piece of furniture, just to make sure it doesn’t stain. After you’ve applied the polish, rub everything down with a clean dry rag to remove any excess.
“But I just really only want to work when I want to work. Life interferes, you know. When you’re young and all you have is your career, some of your life can be in second place. And then you want your life to take first place, and other people don’t see it that way. They see it that your life has to take second place, and it’s hard. Life is really hard, and it’s the only one you have. I mean, I like doing what I do, and I know I’m supposed to do it, but I don’t have anything to bring to it if I don’t live my life.”—"The Case of Hollywood’s White Whale." July 2010. EW interview.
He taught lots and lots of people very effectively. He taught people to commit. Like: “Don’t walk out there with one hand in your pocket unless there’s somethin’ in there you’re going to bring out.” You gotta commit. You’ve gotta go out there and improvise and you’ve gotta be completely unafraid to die. You’ve got to be able to take a chance to die. And you have to die lots. You have to die all the time. You’re goin’ out there with just a whisper of an idea. The fear will make you clench up. That’s the fear of dying. When you start and the first few lines don’t grab and people are going like, “What’s this? I’m not laughing and I’m not interested,” then you just put your arms out like this and open way up and that allows your stuff to go out. Otherwise it’s just stuck inside you.
BM: When I work, my first relationship with people is professional. There are people who want to be your friend right away. I say, “We’re not gonna be friends until we get this done. If we don’t get this done, we’re never going to be friends, because if we don’t get the job done, then the one thing we did together that we had to do together we failed.” People confuse friendship and relaxation. It’s incredibly important to be relaxed — you don’t have a chance if you’re not relaxed. So I try very hard to relax any kind of tension. But friendship is different. I read a great essay: Thoreau on friendship. I was staying over at my friend’s house and there it was on the bedside table, and I’m reading it and I’m thinking it’s an essay, so it’s gonna be like four pages. Well, it goes on and on and on and on — Thoreau was a guy who lived alone, so he just had to get it all out, you know? He just keeps saying, “You have to love what is best in that other person and only what’s best in that other person. That’s what you have to love” —
And my favorite,
BM: There’s only a couple times when fame is ever helpful. Sometimes you can get into a restaurant where the kitchen is just closing. Sometimes you can avoid a traffic violation. But the only time it really matters is in the emergency room with your kids. That’s when you want to be noticed, because it’s very easy to get forgotten in an ER. It’s the only time when I would ever say, “Thank God. Thank God.” There’s no other time.
I like what Charlize Theron has to say about acting in a recent InStyle interview. I’m going to try and remember this and apply it to architecture.
“You know what I can’t stand? I hate [architects] who come and quote Nietzsche. I don’t like pretentious s**t. I like being around people who like to live life and understand the value of it. I need to be around people who understand we’re not curing cancer here. I like professional [architects] who show up, do the job and are not a pain in the a** to either myself or the crew. I don’t believe in this idea that if you’re f****d up and Method [Conceptual], that’s the only way to do good work. It’s bulls**t. A professional [architect] does their homework beforehand and they do their job. Then when it’s all said and done, they have a beer with the crew. That’s what a professional [architect] does.”
Depression that is, is that it fucking sucks balls and when you think you’re better, you think you don’t have it but then it comes back and you want to fold yourself into a little ball and hide in the bottom-most corner of a wastebasket. And I don’t talk about it because when I’m better I can pretend I don’t have it if I’ve never admitted it exists but I am supremely grateful to the atheist-God that there are people like Allie Brosh and Dooce (Yes, I know she has a real name) who do talk about it because it gives me hope and strength to know that these people are pushing through and maybe someday I’ll admit it and maybe someday I’ll get help and maybe someday Ryan Gosling will capture my gaze with his, open his arms and catch me when I run at him.